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edgarallenfrog ([personal profile] edgarallenfrog) wrote2009-04-17 09:49 am

Day of Silence/Night of Noise 2009

Here is a review of the Day of Silence/Night of Noise 2009 in pictures.





Bryce decides to be He-Man and carry the table by himself




And then it was the wrong table so we had to carry it back and get another one, so Stacy helped him this time




Jenn came prepared in case the crazy Christians decided to come protest us (she called me at work the night before to read the verses to me over the phone because she was so proud of herself for finding them, it was pretty cool...I'm proud of her)




Closer view of the bible verses (this only shows one side, the other side had a verse from Samuel and a verse from Luke. She went all out).




Jasmine was all decked out (she used duct tape too, because we both have this diarrhea of the mouth problem).




The back of Jasmine's Hello Kitty hoodie (she wanted me to take a picture, so I did).




Aleisha's rainbow look (Stacy brought the pink duct tape, and I was inordinately excited about it) complete with "Lez Pride" written on her mouth




Bryce shows off a sign with one of the statistics I looked up




This statistic was powerful




This might have been my favorite sign from the entire day. Jason came up with this quote.




Another really good quote from Jason




We went and got milk crates, and then we got people to stand on them, holding signs, as though we were standing on "Silent Soapboxes." It was a brilliant idea. Ashley shows off her duct tape and her sign.




A wide view of me and Ashley (I'm wearing a rainbow cape knitted for me by my friend Cindy Gregerson)




Jenn on her silent soapbox




Aleisha on her soapbox




Me, Ashley, Bryce, and Aleisha




Gumby showed up on the Quad to promote recycling and sustainable living, and Jenn got him to pose for a picture with her, which is pretty awesome




Jenn and Elias




Elias and me




They let me bring some books for our table of resources




Nathan works the crowd and hands out fliers




People check out the table




Nathan reading texts sent by Andrew (people with phones found ways to text without talking)




Jasmine on her soapbox




Jenn double signing it




I didn't think I was going to be able to get Chelsea to smile because she hates pictures so much, but here she is (and she looks so adorable; she and Andrew both do. this is one of the pictures I'm really proud of)




The cape starts to make the rounds




Here's Ashley on the bus handing out fliers. Let me explain. There's a free shuttle bus at FSU now (After we leave, they get all the helpful shit, Dani and Rachel can attest to this...I'm pissed). Jason called me off the soapbox after an hour and said "We know you like standing out and making a statement, Lillian" and I'm thinking, "Um...is he talking about me?" and he asks if I want to ride the student bus around campus for an hour and hand out fliers to people. I get this terrified look, but agree to do it, and they send another girl, Ashley, along with me. It's good she was there, because let me tell you about terrifying! First of all, the only people riding the bus with us were HUGE scary football player jocks who made lewd comments and called us "faggots" and "queers" (dude, stop calling me a faggot! That really pisses me off and it's not even the right word!) I don't know if I would have made it on my own or if I'd have run off the bus in tears, but we made it through, handed out fliers, and stayed silent and in our seats. It's so much harder riding that bus! It's terrifying to hand out fliers, but you get to walk away and you don't have to hear what people say about you behind your back. In the bus, you hear it all. SCARY. So hard not to bolt and run. I don't know if we made an impact (mostly the jocks just seemed mad and said we were "stirring up bullshit just to start trouble" but who knows. Maybe we made a dent somewhere. I know it made a dent in me. I haven't been that scared in a long time. It was hard. But I learned, I wrote down what the guys said, took a picture of the paper, and then filed it away. I found that writing it down made it easier to put behind me and get back to work. I'll have to see if that works in other situations in life.




Here is a picture of my flier (the jocks mocked it, reading it aloud in a high-pitched voice and it was hard for me not to cry, but I'm really proud of how the saying finally turned out...it's still long, even with editing, but it finally says what I wanted it to say. throughout the day, people would make objections that the event was just a "gay thing" and DSAGA people would say "No, lots of people feel like they have to be silent about who they are," and I was really happy to have introduced that idea into the day, because it helped people see how this kind of harassment impacts everyone whether they realize it or not).




I took this picture of myself on the bus, and I realized after I looked at it how terrified I am (look at the fear in my eyes!)




When people came to our table, there was a poster board they could sign in support, and if they wanted, they could also write their names on a link in the rainbow chain, which I thought was an awesome idea). Here Bryce poses with the chain.




Jason stands on a soapbox holding my sign!




Jasmine with the suicide sign...it gets more powerful every time I see it




The cape continues its rounds by stopping at Jenn




Aleisha with her silent love sign




Kelly carries the Silence Kills sign




People sign our remembrance board




I wanted to write down the note about the guy calling us "Queers" and make note of it, so here it is




Keith and Carey




Carey and me




Me and Jasmine




Bryce shows us how he really feels




The cape lands in Jasmine's possession (she is so pretty in this picture)




A guy at our table shows off his "Gay? Fine by me." shirt.




Carey hands out fliers




Jenn and Aleisha...silent love




Trying to get people to pose and look at the camera is difficult




We mostly got it right...here are Jenn, Elias, Jasmine, Aleisha, and Becca (who I met when we both worked at McDonald's...she still works there, and throughout the day she brought free waters to us on the Quad. She's awesome).




We got President Eisler to sign our memorial board




Eisler shakes Nathan's hand




Jenn on a really tall soapbox




Laurel shows up (you guys finally get to sort of meet her, this is my Priest that I talk so much about)




Jenn, Nathan, and Jason




Laurel stayed and hung out for about an hour talking to people (that's how awesome she is). At this point, I'm the only one still not talking.




Elias now has possession of the cape (at this point, we were holding the signs walking around, because let me tell you a story about standing on a milk crate for longer than an hour..."Once upon a time, my legs turned black and fell off. The end." I have bruises up and down my legs and they're killing me right now. Ow.




Jason and Elias posing with a sign I made.




Laurel signs our board and makes a link in our chain




Dude, this board looks awesome




Some of us were pretty much naked at this point in the day :-p


Night of Noise

We had the comedian ANT come to speak with us (if you watch VH1, he's the host of Celebrity Fit Club) and he gave an amazing speech. So guess what? I got to meet him and get a hug! And the event is captured on film! You guys get to see it! I'm using too many exclamation points!




The Hug




I think this is the cutest picture ever, and it's now my picture on Facebook




This is the best of the group shots of ANT with DSAGA




Some people disagree and think this is the best, so I had to include it too




ANT and Bryce




ANT and Jason (Jason has a halo in this picture, which I think is awesome)




I snuck a picture of Jason's hug




A blurry shot of me and Bryce (at this point, I was so exhausted I was about to die, so it fits)




I actually like the blurry shot better I think




Me and Jenn are soooooo sunburned



At the end of the event, I ripped the duct tape off my mouth and screamed pretty loud. I think it was fitting. I think is was awesome that my priest came by to visit. Bryce just left a church after years of serving because they wouldn't allow him to continue there because he's gay, and he was so amazed that my church not only accepts me but welcomes me and affirms me and believes this is the way I'm supposed to be (because the Priest talked about her wife like every normal spouse does...because they ARE normal) and I was so grateful to her for taking the time to be there and be real and show people that not everyone is going to condemn them, and give them hope that maybe God doesn't condemn them, either. I know I'm starting to get glimmers of that hope myself, and it's an awesome feeling.

Best of all, the church people didn't make good on their threats. They didn't show up. Thankfully they're mostly all talk. Apart from the terrifying bus ride and some nasty comments from people walking by (which were hard, don't get me wrong) I discovered that the overall feeling I'm left with is one of great gratitude. Near the end of the night, the newer guy in the group, Bryce, came up to where I was holding my sign, and he gave me a hug and said if anyone tries to mess with me again, he'll back me up. That might sound silly, but it gave me such a sense of friendship and even kind of family that I've been missing out on for a long time. For the first time in years, I'm full of all this hope. Hope that Bryce comes to church and finds out that God doesn't condemn him, hope that I find out God doesn't condemn me (or that I start to believe what I already know, if that makes sense), hope that I have a place and that Bryce has a place and that we all have a place in the world and that we can find it together. At the end of the day, I tore the duct tape off my mouth and screamed, and everyone laughed and congratulated me, and it really felt like a family event...and I'm grateful to God for giving me that (giving us all that hope) and I'm glad to share it with you, too.

I love you all. Thanks for listening.

[identity profile] maritov.livejournal.com 2009-04-17 03:06 pm (UTC)(link)
That's fantastic. Congratulations to all of you for such great work.
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[identity profile] malakijr.livejournal.com 2009-04-17 03:30 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks!

I'm sunburned beyond belief right now. I'm alternating between slathering aloe gel on myself and using vitamin E gel that I have in the fridge.
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[identity profile] malakijr.livejournal.com 2009-04-17 05:08 pm (UTC)(link)
I love that picture. It's cool. Thank you.

[identity profile] jackiesjunkie.livejournal.com 2009-04-17 06:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Talking is pretty much required when I'm at work but it was a little something I could do.

Plus I like any excuse to write on myself. hehehe
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[identity profile] malakijr.livejournal.com 2009-04-18 02:02 am (UTC)(link)
I talked when I was at work, and I talked to Jenn's boyfriend on the phone when I was making sure she was going to come, but from 9:30 until 4 PM, I didn't talk for the first Day of Silence ever. I was pretty proud of myself. I have a huge mouth, so talking is a requirement for me. :-p

[identity profile] satyrix.livejournal.com 2009-04-17 04:51 pm (UTC)(link)
That's beautiful... = )

Oh, and don't forget Matthew 6:15.
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[identity profile] malakijr.livejournal.com 2009-04-17 05:08 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks. I was proud to be a part of everything.

There are a lot of verses we could have used, but I like the 1 John verses best. There was a creepy little indie movie where this small town killed anyone they didn't like (it was called "Skeletons") and they used the 1 John verses Jenn picked out, so I told her about it. I thought it was really cool. I was proud of her for looking up the verses and reading the context of the verses to make sure she wasn't taking them out of context (that's why she called me at work the night before when she was making the posters, to talk to me about it) because a lot of people don't care about context. A lot of people also don't bother to look to the bible to combat the things people throw at them, they just take it, so I was proud of her for looking it up and fighting back, even if no one showed up to protest us.

[identity profile] peskipiksi.livejournal.com 2009-04-17 11:08 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so glad when you do these picture posts, because I get to feel like I was there even though I totally wasn't.

I have to admit I'm surprised that the suicide and bullying stats are so low. And I feel horribly sad that I'm surprised by that. :(

The football players have obviously never been oppressed by anything a day in their lives. I'm pretty sure the best thing for those sorts of people would be to be followed around and kicked repeatedly in the crotch for a week straight. "This is what it feels like to be gay...and black...and female...and Jewish...and disabled.... You still laughing, fucknuts? Huh?" Not that that's the best way to fix it, but it'd sure make me feel better.
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[identity profile] malakijr.livejournal.com 2009-04-18 02:01 am (UTC)(link)
I love posting the pictures, so I'm glad that people enjoy seeing them.

The football players have obviously never been oppressed by anything a day in their lives. I'm pretty sure the best thing for those sorts of people would be to be followed around and kicked repeatedly in the crotch for a week straight. "This is what it feels like to be gay...and black...and female...and Jewish...and disabled.... You still laughing, fucknuts? Huh?" Not that that's the best way to fix it, but it'd sure make me feel better.

I think this method would work for a lot of people.
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[personal profile] maewyn 2009-04-18 01:46 am (UTC)(link)
Yay!! Thank you for posting this. Day of Silence has come a long way since I was participating in it -- or at least, your pictures make it seem like it has; I pretty much wore the shirt and had cards that I didn't need to hand to anybody and skipped Night of Noise and that was it. Your whole day looks like it was 10 times better, haters included.

Also your new journal theme is fucking awesome.
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[identity profile] malakijr.livejournal.com 2009-04-18 01:59 am (UTC)(link)
your new journal theme is fucking awesome.

Thanks, I needed something new for my theme, so going with my Harvey Milk obsession, I found a rainbow to match the header banner that my friend Carrie made for me, and then I was set.

Yeah, the Day of Silence has come a long way since I user to participate. DSAGA in general has come a long way. It used to meet in the way back of the STARR building on the second floor down a dark, creepy hallway. Now it's a lot more out in the open, and for the better I think. I was really proud of us yesterday for being so awesome.

[identity profile] vacheestfachee.livejournal.com 2009-04-18 10:24 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, thanks for letting us experience the day vicariously through your pictures. :)

Now to experience some vicarious jock nut-kicking ... :P
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[identity profile] malakijr.livejournal.com 2009-04-19 10:01 am (UTC)(link)
I'm all about the nut kicking. :-p